How Kelly Corrigan is Getting me Through this Quarantine
Have you read The Middle Place or Tell Me More?
I loved those books by Kelly Corrigan. Corrigan is an author who captures the human experience with humor, relatability and reverence. She writes about losing a parent, a best friend, and being a mom in ways that are honest and funny and go straight to my heart.
Throughout Corona Quarantine, she’s been posting short videos on her Instagram that I’ve found helpful. You’ll find her @kellycorrigan. You’ll find me @carolbainadler. (I used to be on there as “your.next.chapter”, but I stopped hiding behind my business name this week.)
Back to Kelly Corrigan and experiencing Corona Quarantine.
These words apply to all of us in the Corona Quarantine.
“Take your time. It’s not your fault. There’s no rush.”
I found them comforting as this is the week that marks:
My tendency is to beat myself up about not being able to “get over it.” Get busy, be productive, be a helper.
These words might also be helpful tonight as the Adler clan gets together on Zoom. We’ll all be better served if we can have patience.
I strongly believe that when we allow ourselves to feel what we feel, to embrace the disappointment, the loss, the uncertainty–we actually move THROUGH it more easily than when we resist and force ourselves to move on.
I know that when I’m annoyed with my kids for their complaining about this quarantine, I’m best served by LISTENING again, validating how they feel, and then they move through it. They feel understood. Kelly Corrigan reminds me to say, “Tell me more,” to my kids.
My husband and I have had some “episodes” during this quarantine too. We have very different ways of coping and cleaning. He takes ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING out of a cabinet at once. Puts every can of beans, every bag of quinoa, every jar of Rao’s all over the kitchen table and counter. Every surface gets covered with all the contents of a pantry. This causes my stomach to flip. (I’m a One Shelf At a Time gal.) I guess after 22 years of marriage, we’d never really talked about how this stuff affects us. Well, you can bet we have now.
AND I’m extremely grateful he’s cleaning/organizing. He’s grateful there’s no more expired chutney or ants in the pantry.
In order to listen and be patient with the energy vampires living in my house these days, I need to make sure I’m taking care of my own needs.
1. Get enough sleep.
Believe me, things get ugly and resentful when I don’t take care of myself.
Anything getting ugly in your house? I’d love to hear.
I’ll close with some simple words of another writer I appreciate: Glennon Doyle.
Wishing you patience and strength and love and listening as we move through this hard thing.
PS Share what’s getting ugly or what you’re doing to move through this hard thing.